You walk away from a conversation and nothing happens. No follow-up, no rapport, no real connection. What if the problem isn’t that you’re boring, but that you’re trying too hard to be interesting?
In this episode, we break down why leading with your resume, credentials, and accomplishments can quietly sabotage the connections you want, and what to do instead. Resume stuff has its place on a job application. Face to face, it often builds a wall.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
• The mindset shift that makes people instantly more comfortable around you
• The behavioral shift: how asking more questions changes every conversation
• What “toppers” are, and why one-upping people kills rapport
• How to measure your “airtime” so you stop dominating the conversation
• Simple, curiosity-based questions you can use at networking events and on the job site
• Why people who feel listened to become your biggest advocates
Being more interested than interesting is one of the simplest ways to build influence, earn trust, and become the person people want to work with and recommend.
00:00 Stop Selling Your Resume
01:44 Be Interested Not Interesting
03:23 The Topper Problem
05:05 Learn About Them
06:05 Questions That Open Doors
08:20 Why Interest Works
11:01 Pressure to Sell
12:47 Back Pocket Questions
15:01 Jobsite Conversation Starters
19:42 Measure Your Airtime
Boost Your Leadership game with The Construction Leadership Lab:
https://www.depthbuilder.com/construction-leadership-lab
Download your free copy of Becoming the Promise You are Intended to Be:
https://www.depthbuilder.com/books
Sign up for weekly insights on leaving the construction industry better than you found it:
Subscribe on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/build-relation/newsletter-follow?entityUrn=7147552350830833665
#lifelessons #relationships #personaldevelopment #changeleaders
#learningsandmissteps #depthbuilder #emotionalbungeejumpers #leadershipskills #trust #communication #vulnerability #emotionalintelligence #construction #constructionlife #constructionleadership #changeleadership #personalgrowth #dothedamnthing #selfishservant
